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Change is Certain

| December 27, 2016

The old adage says that the only sure things in life are death and taxes…but there’s one other thing that’s pretty much a certainty.

That certainty is change. Everything changes and successful people embrace change rather than fight it. In fact, the most successful people don’t wait for change to seek them out through accident or crisis – they are agents of change themselves.

We can all create opportunities to change our lives for the better. All it takes is a little effort. Start with some self-reflection. Ask yourself what is important to you and why. What makes you happy? What do you want to achieve? Finding your meaning in life gives you a sense of purpose and direction. What did you dream of before the business of living your life got in the way? Making a dream board is one way to get back in touch with those dreams. When you see the illustration before you, dreams become real and you can start working toward achieving your goals and living your life with greater purpose.

One thing that prevents us from achieving our dreams is hanging onto regret. What is past is finished. Let it go, or you run the risk of missing out on the present and the future. You don’t have any control over what has come before, but the future is in your hands. Grab hold of it.

To pursue your dreams, you need to step out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself. Choose something that frightens you and go for it! Are you afraid of heights? Try skydiving. Maybe that’s a little extreme, but you get the idea. Once you’ve conquered a fear, the boost in confidence can propel you upward toward heights you might not have dared to imagine.

One of the greatest gifts you can give yourself is acceptance. So often in life, we are our own worst enemies and harshest critics. Think about how you talk about yourself? How would you respond if you heard someone talk about a friend in the same manner? If you love yourself, accept your good and bad qualities, and strive to be the best person you can be, you’ll create positive energy that you can channel toward achieving your goals in life. Low self-esteem and harsh self-criticism only lead to a spiral of negativity.

Another thing that will change your life for the better is learning to live in the moment. We’ve already talked about shaking off the regrets of the past. But worrying ceaselessly about the future is little better. Plan for the future, but focus on actually being present in your life. Take time to appreciate your friends and family, the opportunities and experiences you have every day. If you spend your time worrying and stressing, you can miss out on the little miracles and delights that you find everywhere when you take the time to look. Appreciation and gratitude can add a whole new dimension to life.

And finally, remember that learning is a lifelong process. The acquisition of knowledge for the sake of learning has value. As we acquire new knowledge, we become more confident, more adaptable, and more creative. Read, ask questions, and appreciate the experience of the people around you. The more you learn, the more your life will expand in ways you might never even have imagined.

“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.” ~ John F. Kennedy

The one constant thing in our life is change. We cannot avoid it and the more we resist change the tougher our life becomes. Trust me; I know this because I was very skilled at deflecting change in my life. We are surrounded by change and it is the one thing that has the most dramatic impact on our lives. Change has the ability to catch up with you at some point in your life. There is no avoiding it because it will find you, challenge you, and force you to reconsider how you live your life.

Change can come into our lives as a result of a crisis, as a result of choice or by chance. In either situation we are all faced with having to make a choice – do we make the change or not? I believe it is always better to make changes in your life when you choose to rather than being forced to.

We however cannot avoid the unexpected events (crisis) in our lives because it is these events that challenge our complacency in life. What we can control when we are experiencing these challenging events, is how we choose to respond to them. It is our power of choice that enables us to activate positive change in our lives.

Acting on our power of choice provides us with more opportunity to change our lives for the better. The more opportunities we create to change our lives the more fulfilled and happier our lives become. Here are 10 things that you can do in your life that will change your life for the good, forever:

  1. Find Meaning in Life
    Spend some time trying to sort out what is important in your life and why is it important. What is it that you want to achieve in your life? What are your dreams? What makes your happy? Your meaning in life gives you purpose and sets the direction of how you want to live your life. Without meaning you will spend the rest of your life wandering through life aimlessly with no direction, focus, or purpose.
  1. Create a Dream Board
    When we were children we would daydream all the time. We were skilled at dreaming and visualizing what we would be when we grew up. We believed that anything was possible. As we grew into adults we lost our ability to dream. Our dreams became hidden and once we started to feel like achieving our dreams was impossible.

    A dream board is a great way for us to start believing in your own dreams again. Seeing our dreams every day on a dream board brings our dreams to life. Our dreams become real and we start to have belief in the possibility of achieving these dreams.
  1. Set Your Goals to Achieve Your Dreams
    Once you know what is important in your life and what your dream life looks like for you, you need to take action and set your long-term, medium, and short-term goals. It is acting on these goals that enable you to achieve your dreams

    Remember your goals may change. Always be flexible with setting and achieving your goals as things in life change and your goals need to reflect these changes. It’s the small steps that you take that create the momentum for change to happen in your life.

  2. Let Go Of Your Regrets
    Regrets will only hold you back in life. Regrets are events of the past and if you spend all your time thinking about the past you will miss the present and the future. You cannot change what you did or did not do in the past, so let it go. The only thing you have control over now is how you choose to live your present and future life.

    I had a heap of regrets that were holding me back in my life. I came across the “Balloon Exercise” and got rid of my regrets for good. What is it? It’s simple — just blow up as many balloons as you need. On each balloon write a regret and then let the balloon go. As the balloon drifts off into the sky say goodbye to that regret forever. A simple and powerful exercise that works and can change how you live your life.
  1. Choose Some Really Scary Things to Do and Then Do Them
    This is all about you choosing to step out of your comfort zone. Public speaking is one of the most frightening things anyone can do. I was petrified of public speaking however; I knew that I wanted to be a motivational speaker. So I joined Toast Masters to overcome my fear of public speaking. My first speech was terrible, my knees were knocking, I broke out in a sweat and I couldn’t stop shaking. But I did it and the feeling of completing this speech, even though it was terrible was great. I chose to keep going and now I earn a living as a motivational speaker. I am still nervous when I get up to speak however it is an excited nervous and I love it.
    Make a list of scary things that you would kind of like to do but are too afraid to. Put a plan in place and then go do them. Never stop doing scary things because if you do your life will become one of complacency and comfort.
  1. Start Living a Well-Balanced Life
    Our health does not remain the same. Our physical, emotional, and spiritual state changes, as we get older. What we can control however is how we feed our minds and our bodies. Living a balanced and healthy life builds our resilience to the physical changes of our body. Exercise is the best way in which we can attain a positive and optimistic attitude toward life.

    Living a healthy, well-balanced life with lots of exercise is a lifestyle choice that without a doubt will give you a happier more satisfied and fulfilled life.
  1. Face Your Fears
    It’s easy to ignore our fears and hope that they will go away. Unfortunately, it does not work like that. If you want to change your life, learn to master your fears so they can’t control you any longer. Our fears are only thoughts in our minds that are not real but over time we have become to believe that they are true. It is our fears in life that stop us from living our life to the fullest. We know when our fears are controlling our lives because we feel discontent, dissatisfied and unfulfilled.

    Once we face our fears we take back our power to choose how we want to live our lives and when we do this we change our lives forever.
  1. Accept You
    The only person who is going to create change in your life is you! and to create that change you have to like you. There will be times in your life where you will face rejection and there will be people who will not like you that much. Accepting who you are and loving yourself helps you to move forward in your life. Putting yourself down all the time and wishing you could be better will only lead you to a life of unhappiness and discontent.

    Find your courage, love yourself, and step out and do something crazy. Don’t worry about what anyone thinks or whether it is the right thing to do. In your heart if it feels right, act on it and go create the life you love.
  1. Live In the Moment
    Many of us tend to think that the grass is greener on the other side. Often, we get to the other side of the fence we find that this is not so. The motivation to change our lives comes from our desire to be happy. We are often so busy focusing on our pursuit of happiness that we miss the joy of actually living in the moment. Our desire to have happiness in our lives is a desire of a future state not of the present. We become so consumed with all our problems and discontent in the present we miss the precious beauty of the moment.

    Sitting on the beach eating an ice-cream with your best friend or partner is a moment of happiness. Appreciating and showing gratitude on a daily basis is experiencing happiness in the moment. Helping those in need brings joy and happiness to us. This is what living our life in the moment is all about – don’t miss these moments because you are too busy focusing on your pursuit of happiness.
  1. Experience the Joy of Learning
    Each time you learn something new you gain more knowledge and with more knowledge comes more confidence. Learning helps us to be more adaptable and flexible to new situations. Learning encourages us to be more creative and innovative in our thinking and we are therefore more comfortable with the unknown.

    Reading books is a great way for us to learn. To fully embrace the joy of learning, never stop reading nor searching for more knowledge. Learning gives our life meaning and this is what makes our life worthwhile.

You have a choice to make as to how you want to change your life. Choosing to act on these 10 things will without a doubt change your life forever. So what are you waiting for? Go do these 10 things now!